The Table for the Absent

On October 3rd, I flew to Korea to document jesa, the Korean ancestral rite, during Chuseok. Jesa is a Korean ancestral ritual where families honor their ancestors through offerings of food and drink. I was there for only four days, yet what I witnessed—through food, labor, and ritual—revealed more than I expected about belonging, memory, and the quiet weight of tradition.

I was born in South Korea and immigrated to the United States at thirteen, a move that fractured my sense of home. As a child, I watched my mother and grandmother prepare endless dishes before dawn at my grandparents’ house. I thought we were expecting guests, but no one ever came. When I finally asked why, my mother said, “It’s for your great-grandfather and great-grandmother.” Only then did I understand that the table was set for the dead.

After I moved abroad alone, jesa faded from my daily life, but not from my family’s. Each time I returned to Korea, I would find certain dates quietly marked on the calendar: jesa. This project follows that ritual—from grocery shopping to the final bow—through the lens of both observer and daughter, searching for what was lost and what remains.


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